HOW TO LEARN MORE ABOUT YOUR CHILD'S DAY AT SCHOOL

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What did you do at school today? Nothing. 

I bet you’ve heard that one before! It can be maddening to wonder what our little ones are doing off in their own world, and when they finally arrive home, they tell us NOTHING! I remember when my oldest, now eleven, started nursery school and would barely answer me from the back seat of the car on our way home.  I would badger him with questions all throughout lunch, and still, nothing.  It was really hard.  But guess what, he was tired! And children like to talk on their own terms.  So do yourself a favor and wait until they've had a snack and relaxed a bit before bombarding them with questions about their day.  Even better, wait for them to start to talk about the day before you even ask.  Be patient.

Conversation Prompts:  

Here are some simple prompts for supporting your child in communicating with you about their day.

  1. What color was the paint today? Did you choose to mix the colors together, or did you keep them separate?

  2. Who sat next to you on the rug today. Did you talk to them? Can your remember her name? I wonder who you will sit with tomorrow?

  3. At playtime, did you choose to play right away or did you watch the other children for a while first? I wonder if you climbed or colored with chalk?

  4. Did you work with blocks? I wonder what the choices will be for tomorrow?

 

Child-led Conversation Tips:

When you are speaking to your child and you want to gather more information, try not to be too leading.  Reflect their words back at them and then wait.  It goes a bit like this:

Mom: Sloane, I wonder what color paint your teacher put out today.

Sloane: Red. 

Mom: Red.  The paint was red.  (Pause and wait…and wait.)

Sloane.  Yeah, it was red and Daniel spilled some and he cried when it got on his sneakers!

Mom: He cried when it spilled on his sneakers?

Sloane: Yes! He was crying and crying but then the teacher came and she showed everyone what to do if they spill the paint.

Mom: She showed everyone what to do?

Sloane: Yes!! You get a rag from the bucket….etc. 

 

Mom: Sloane, what color was the paint today?

Sloane: Red

Mom: Red! What did you paint? 

Sloane: A balloon.  

Mom: What else did you do?

Sloane: Nothing.

Do you see the difference between these two conversations? The first conversation is open ended and allows the child to think and collect thoughts about what she feels was important in her day.  

In the second conversation, the mom leads the conversation and the questions only have one finite answer.  There is little opportunity for the child to share the finer details about the day.   

Have you tried speaking to your child using this reflective technique? It feels strange at first,  but when you see how much more your child communicates with you, you will be astounded!

Please let me know if you decide to check it out! 

Thanks for reading and for following along.